A friend told me recently, “It’s been a year since I’ve been divorced. I should find someone. I’m quite lonely.”
And that got me thinking
What is wrong with loneliness?
It’s the most powerful emotion to have.
It’s not from happiness, peace or ambition that we grow. It’s from loneliness. So many couples think that marriage and being with another human being is supposed to fill a void. But no one realizes that even if you’re with someone that void is a gift.
Loneliness is powerful. It gives you a sense of what you’re lacking. And that lack is not just time with your spouse. It’s a lack of more energy in your life. It’s the universe’s way of telling you are so much more. What more do you want to do. Besides this person in your life, what else can you be? And only from loneness will your soul grow.
It’s sad when you see couples just being together all the time. Doing the same things. Feeling the same way having common emotions and values and hooping for the same dreams of bigger houses better cars good education for kids. And then partying together, spending every minute either together or in filling their time with people and work.
So often we shun loneliness thinking that it is negative. It makes us depressed. Not being able to understand that it is highly under rated.
We must embrace it. And from there we will grow. Enjoy your time alone. Enjoy your space. And reflect on yourself. Be lonely. It’s worth it.