Sex is a game we play. It’s exactly like a job. You’re not going to get it unless you work for it.
Women lose their libido all the time. It’s because of familiarity, boredom, housework, boss’ ire, children’s tantrums, maid issues, and body complexity. That’s a lot for a woman to deal with before she jumps into bed with you. So here are a few things you can do to play this game right and have sex with your partner every night.
1. Get rid of her stress – When you come home from work, or if you’ve been home the whole day, help around the house. Look after the kids, clean up, manage the bills, and lend a hand wherever you can. Make her a cup of tea. Rub her feet when she’s sitting and watching TV. Ask her what you can do to make her life easier. Once she has some time on her hands, you can try to initiate sex and talk to her about how much you need it.
2. Massage & Music – There’s nothing that gets a woman in the groove than a massage with some aromatic oils and some funky slow music in a dark room. Offer to give her a slow back rub while you gently kiss her around her neck and smell her hair. Don’t immediately jump into her erogenous zones. Let her get into the groove and want to have sex with you. It might not work on the first try but after a few times, she’ll definitely be excited and ready. Be patient. Sex is a like a great cup of coffee, it takes time to brew for deep pleasure. If you want it instantly, it will be just a watered down version of the real thing.
3. Watch Porn – Not many women have watched a lot of porn. But you have. You know the correct movies. Offer to watch a soft porn movie together. A little story would help. Moreover, while you’re at it, hint at what you would like, “You would look so amazing if you wore that.” Alternatively, “That gets me so excited; I wish we could do that some time.” You could even suggest that you try something different that night, instead of the usual place in the house experiment with another room or another location like the sofa, the kitchen counter, the bathroom to spice things up. You might not always have an orgasm but the idea is to have fun.
4. Hire Help & Run Away – You hate your in laws but sometimes they can be useful. Have them come over for a few days so you can take your wife out to a hotel and enjoy yourself in the hot tub, the pool, and the soft comfortable bed that has enough spring for you to go at it all night. Don’t fall asleep at your regular bedtime. Change your timings to make the maximum benefit of your time away. Define it as a “sex vacation” and not a “relaxing” one.
5. Be a Woman – Often women need to know what they sound like and how annoying they can be. Put on your whiny tone. “No I don’t want to have sex. I’m so tired. I don’t want to work. I just need a break. No one understands!” Always smile after you behave like her to tell her you’re joking. But she should get the hint. If she’s getting annoyed you could whisper in her ear how you could “relieve her stress!”
6. Jealousy and Revenge – “Oh by the way we have a new Sales manager in the office. She was checking me out today.” Women are so sure that you won’t go anywhere that they won’t try at all. Let them know you have options. Don’t ever say that you find another woman interesting. Just those other women find you sexy. And the next day, groom yourself even better. Whistle while you’re getting ready and even ask your girl, “How am I looking? Hot?” She’ll presume you’re getting ready for the new girl in office and will probably want to do it with you right then! Jealousy can ignite a woman to have sex!
7. Presents & Compliments – “You look gorgeous.” “I love that you have a curvy body. I hate skinny women.” “I think you’re even more beautiful now than when I met you.” “That dress makes you look so sexy, I just want to rip it off and do you now.” Compliments go a long way in building a woman’s self-confidence about her body. When she’s not happy with the way she looks, she’s not going to take her clothes off. Buy a lovely silk robe for your girl. That way you can ask her to wear nothing underneath to bed. Silk always arouses a woman’s senses. With lingerie and negligees, you can go wrong because if you don’t know the size, you’re in trouble. Also, gift her perfume that you want to spray on her naked body.
8. Hidden Touches – You may live with your parents, you may have kids around, you may even have guests over for dinner, but that doesn’t mean you can’t have some fun with your girl. Let her know that she’s special all the time. Not just when you want to have sex. Give her a quick kiss when she’s in the kitchen preparing food, right before she goes into the bathroom or goes into the bedroom to fetch something. Touch her butt lightly when she crosses you in the hallway. Go with her when she’s buying vegetables or getting into the car so you can feel her up in the stairs or elevator. The quick, impulsive, passionate advances will prove how much you desire her when she least expects it. She’ll reciprocate the feeling later.
9. Stop the car – Most couples drive to work, go to dinners to meet friends, drive to grocery stores for chores. Take a small break on the way and kiss her passionately or get down and dirty if you really want to. You don’t always need to get there on time. And you don’t always need to be in perfect disposition. So what if your clothes are a little crumpled? No one cares. Sometimes, use the basement in the building. Sit in the car and make out like teenagers. Go for a long drive once the kids are asleep and feel each other in a darkened ally. Make sure someone is looking after the kids `cos you don’t want a neighbour calling you on your cell phone in the middle of all this!
10. Be Vulnerable & Share – Often women think men have everything sorted in their life. Men are strong and stable and can handle everything. However, most men have issues of their own. They keep it bottled up. You need to tell your girl the stress in your life and how you’re feeling, scared, angry, hurt, disappointed, and vulnerable. Ok, sometimes you need to even make stuff up. Women will ask, “How can I help?” And that’s when you can ask for some loving, “It would really help if we could lie here together without any disturbances.” Slowly make your moves. Help her, help you!
